It’s Day 3 of Letting Go! If you are still with me, give yourself a big pat on the back! This is no easy challenge. I’m excited to have you with me! This is a process so go easy on yourself. Just do your best to let go of negative beliefs so you’re not trapped away from the joy filled life we are all intended to live!
Here’s today’s challenge:
Today, we will practice letting go of worry. What one worry has been bothering you lately? Give yourself permission to let it go, at least for today! Worry is a form of fear. Fear clouds our thinking and keeps us ineffective in our lives.
Fear steals our happiness. Most negative or perhaps all negative emotions are born out of fear. We can abolish fear by reminding ourselves that what will be, will be. The only positive action we can take is acting with a clear mind, free from fear, knowing that what will be, will be better without cloudy, fearful thinking.
Easier said than done? It gets easier as we begin to live out this belief. In the beginning, use a mantra to repeat and then move on. If negative thoughts continue to hound you (and they will at first), use mindfulness to fend off the pesky thought garbage.
Mindfulness is simply being aware of your surroundings and how you interact with it. There are several ways to do this. Experiment to find the one that works best for you.
Step 1. The next time worry or fear comes to mind decide first if you have time to think about it.
(If no, make a mental note to deal with it at a specific time and then move on to step 5)
Step 2. Look the fear in the eyes and decide what you can do about it. Ask, “How can I improve this situation?”
Step 3. Make a specific plan and put it into action ASAP.
Step 4. Make the decision to reject your fear because it’s not logical and it will only make things worse. Do this even if there is nothing you can do to make things better.
Step 5. Remind yourself that you have a plan in action EVERY TIME that pesky fear bothers you. Tell yourself you’ve already decided to let that fear go! A friend recently told me she mentally puts her negative thoughts on a bus and watches the bus drive away. Or she will envisions herself sitting by a lake and placing her worries or sadness on a lily pad and then watches the lily pad float away. I am going to use this imagery to help me today as I endeavor to send my worry away.
Step 6. THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF THIS PROCESS is to put your mind on other things that in no way relate to said fear. This may not be 100% possible in times when the fear is staring you in the face. Don’t give up! Below is a list of possible things to put your mind on. If possible, do something you love:
Precursor – Whatever you choose to do, do it mindfully paying close attention to what your senses are telling you. What are you physically feeling, seeing, hearing, smelling, and, yes, even tasting? Think about each sense one at a time, being as specific as you can, with what you notice.
Light candles (scented are the best)
You get the idea.
If you’re driving or working or talking to someone you don’t want to talk to, focus on specifics you enjoy. For example, do you like the color red? Seek it out. Does the person you’re talking to smell nice, look nice, have beautiful eyes or any positive attribute at all? Be creative. If you want to find something good you will find it! And always ask yourself what you can do to make things better. Then do that.
P.S. Make it easy to be happy. Take care of you first so that you’re not too clouded by hunger, exhaustion, or stress to effectively put these exercises in motion.